I honestly think we have it backwards,
we seem to believe that the moment we are successful, we will instantly achieve
happiness. The problem is working towards success is future based, and when we
tie our happiness to those goals, it then becomes an elusive thing of the
future as well. “I won’t be happy until xyz happens” or “I won’t be happy until
Like many of you, I am driven, I love a
challenge and I thrive when I have set myself goals and am working towards
them. I like to do my best. I know I am just a bit competitive, and I love to
see just what I can do. Now there’s nothing wrong with being ambitious, but the
key is to separate your happiness from your idea of success. Happiness should
not be reliant on what you do or what you have, happiness should be what you
pursue RIGHT NOW and here are 3 reasons why:
1. There will always be more to
The flow of modern life is to move on to
the next big thing as soon as we have achieved our goal. Complete little
school, big school and then varsity. Get your first job, get a better job and
then get promoted. Buy a car, buy a house, then buy a better car and buy a
The problem is there will always be
more. To tie your happiness to a moving goal post is setting yourself up for failure.
We need to rather learn to be content with what we have in our present moment,
and find happiness in the act of living, regardless of where we are going or
what we have.
2. My happiness now will invite my
successes in the future
The conventional belief is that once we
have success we have “made it” and we will naturally be happy, but as I
mentioned before I believe that it’s the other way around. I believe that once
we are happy we will find our own version of success.
This starts with living life in a way
that you love, focusing on what makes your soul ignite and prioritising those
activities which are important to you. Find your own way of doing things that
aligns with your beliefs and values. When you do this you will open yourself up
to the types of people, experiences and opportunities in life that help you on
your path to success.
3. The end goal isn’t really success
For most of us the reason we set a goal
is because it will make us feel a certain way. By getting a better salary, it
will make me feel more financially secure. By getting that promotion it will
make me feel more prominent and important. So what feeling is it you think you
will get by being more successful that you can’t get right now?
I’m not saying that you need to give up
on the success that you want, just give up on the illusion that you will only
be happy once you have achieved your definition of success. There are so many
ways that you can enjoy life RIGHT NOW while working towards your success, you
can have fun and find pleasure in the moment.
Stop delaying your happiness for the
future and start creating it now… and your success will follow.